Friday, January 30, 2009

Terrible Twos

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(大年初一被妈咪叫醒的iz,穿着唐装的他像个功夫小子)

要不是友人告诉我关于Terrible Twos,我也不知道小小孩竟然会经过酱紫的过程。赶快上网找资料。。。

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Toddler

Don't Play Play。。。Terrible Twos就像叛逆青春期和女人大姨妈到访时那么的难搞。。。

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最近这几个星期,iz变得很没耐性。平时和我们乖乖在餐厅里用餐的他,总是会从Highchair里爬出来到处走,要不然就是逛街时完全不坐手推车,不要被daddy和mummy拖手仔,自己像个突围的蛮牛乱跑乱冲的。

在家里总是粘着妈咪不放,有时总会无原无故的哭闹不停。很多时候都好像是故意在刁难和试探妈咪的容忍度。很多事情都要自己来,做不到时又乱发脾气。

iz明明很爱daddy,但有时候却莫名其妙的不让daddy碰他,daddy上班时又很期待他下班的时间。

每天只对着iz几个小时的老公已忍无可忍的想用藤便教育,而一向不鼓励藤便教育的我也有点动摇了。幸好幸好在这个时候我们知道Terrible Twos酱的一回事。

(真的要谢谢丽英,还有谢谢大伯母的分享)

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原来小小孩在接近两岁的成长过程中都会受到很多压力。这个年龄的他们语言能力还不够强,不能完全表达自己的想法和意愿,又迫切的认为自己可以胜任许多事情。当力不从心的时候,小小孩唯有用哭,喊,叫,踢,打来发泄。

试想想,在孩子发脾气时还要冷静从容的对待真的是一件很不简单的事情。这里有一些小小的“贴斯”来对待难缠的Terrible Twos:-

  • having a regular routine for meals, naps, bedtime, etc. and try to stick to them each day
  • offer limited choices only, like 'would you like apples or oranges for your snack' and not just 'what do you want for your snack.' This helps your toddler feel like he is making some decisions and has power over things, but he isn't able to choose unacceptable alternatives.
  • learn to set limits about things and don't be surprised when your toddler tries to test those limits to see what he can get away with
  • don't give in to tantrums
  • begin to use time-out and taking away privileges as discipline techniques
  • provide your toddler with a safe environment that is well childproofed to explore and play in. It really isn't fair that your toddler should get in trouble for playing with something he isn't supposed to if you left it within reach.

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老公,我们加油吧!那些家里也有Terrible Twos的daddy和mummy们,我们加油吧!

3 comments:

Sheryl said...

这本书很不错 The Happiest Toddler on the Block, Harvey Karp. 我是在Kinokuniya 买的,价钱是RM48.77。

刘师奶 said...

英文书啊?有没有中文的?哈哈!我看英文书要大半个世纪才会看完的叻!

Sheryl said...

是英文版的,不晓得有没有中文哩!